Is it all about utility? I heard a theory once that defined friendship in terms of utility.. It claimed that you only keep friends around that are of use to you, on some level. Maybe the word ‘use’ is a bit harsh, it takes away any possibility for intimacy.. But your friends must do something for you, whether emotionally, mentally, whatever.. they must touch some part of your soul that convinces you to maintain that association, right? If not then, they’re just there, usurping your seemingly unlimited resources. Ideally, nobody wants to surround themselves with negativity and unnecessary inconvenience, nuisance, or trouble. Why keep those that are of no benefit to you and instead put you at a disadvantage, right?
Motivational quotes float around and occasionally land in one of my many social network feeds.. and they encourage you to let go of those that drag you down instead of helping you grow as a person. I don’t know, it seems to advertise the aforementioned theory, no? and.. I don’t know.. I smell a hint of selfishness. But is that wrong? Doesn’t “me” come first? Is it not reasonable? Maybe it’s about weighing worth, carefully watching the scales tip.. the friendship versus your own happiness.. Are unconditional friendships expected from us? Is this what friendship entails? Unconditionality? Are we to expect unconditional relations from others?
But still, our worth cannot be simply reduced into utility??!
Well I guess if you’re in the business of attaining this ideal happiness or complete satisfaction in life, maybe you should drop those that drag you down.. Don’t be mislead into thinking that I’m speaking of
(random) acts of kindness; you usually don’t invite the homeless to your home in hopes of becoming best buds, after you serve him food at the soup kitchen..
But since we’re here.. what would happen if that was the norm?